Dear Amy: I am a supervisor at my task.
Last June, a brand-new staff member moved from a various system. She was mad the very first number of days. She likewise had a worry of reporting to her brand-new manager (not me) due to the fact that she believed she “looked mean.”
I described how I handle and how our group works. She appreciated.
She began bringing me breakfast in the early morning. I asked her to stop numerous times, however she continued to bring me food presents and other kinds of presents, leaving them on my desk. This was totally undesirable.
Once again, I asked her to stop, however this continued.
In December, she got promoted. I was elated due to the fact that she would be gone from my location and I would not need to handle it any longer.
She has actually begun to visit my workplace when I’m not there and leaving me little presents. Once again, I asked her to stop.
Recently she made a surprise lunch break see to my workplace, which remains in a completely various structure on a various side of town.
She drove all the method over to where I work to “state hi.” I informed her I valued this, however that I required to return to work.
She stated she felt disrespected and after that composed me a long e-mail stating that she didn’t comprehend why we could not be pals and was questioning why I keep declining her.
She likewise stated she thinks that I am frightened by her which I am envious of her confidence, that I’m envious of the important things that she does, the method she brings herself, and the truth that she’s more youthful than me.
She has actually sent me notes and letters where she stated that I’m extremely vulnerable, stating that she understood that I required her to look after me.
I simply do not understand how to get this girl to leave me alone.
I’m a straight lady and not into her at all. I do not require anymore pals.
I seem like I’m being stalked. The sappy, clingy e-mails and letters that she composes are simply excessive for me.
I am tired of this. What should I do? Should I go to HR?
— Manager in Texas
Dear Manager: Yes, you must go to HR instantly. You most likely ought to have gone a long period of time back. This individual appears to be “single white female-ing” you (look it up)– ending up being more manipulative and compulsive gradually. You have actually tried to get her to stop a number of times, and she has actually not appreciated your sensible limits.
Print out every interaction she has actually sent you and go to HR right now. You do not understand if she has actually acted in this manner towards other individuals in the business, however her habits towards you appears to have actually taken an enormous turn,