Thursday, November 28

I’m In a Perfect Relationship. I Can’t Stop Sabotaging It.

How to Do It He does not even recognize I’m doing it.

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Dear How to Do It,

I’m in a long-lasting relationship that’s been pleasing mentally, psychologically, and sexually. We check out and attempt brand-new things, I feel taken care of and liked. I have no grievances.

The issue is this brand-new pastime I’ve established that I have not shared and can’t appear to stop. I have actually been sexting with individuals on an online platform. Whenever I go to erase my account and end all interaction, I can’t appear to make myself do it. I’m not even doing anything I can’t request in my present relationship, it simply makes me feel wanted in such a way I have not felt in so long.

Why am I doing this? How do I make myself stop?

— Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop

Dear Can’t Stop, Won’t Stop,

You do not understand and I can just think,

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